Managing Holiday Stress
Holiday season is officially in full swing. While many find joy and comfort in the traditions and celebrations that accompany this time of year, others find it stressful, sad, and even lonely. The holidays are not a one-size-fits-all when it comes to emotions and coping. We’ve gathered some effective strategies to help you manage whatever comes your way this season.
Don’t feel like you have to do it all.
If you find the go-go-go momentum of the holidays overwhelms you, know that it is ok to say no. Too many activities can leave you feeling empty opposed to fulfilled. Slow down, take a moment for yourself, and consider alternatives like online shopping or sharing the cooking duties with a partner. Choose to say YES to activities that are meaningful to you and leave the chaos behind.
Avoid Spending, Eating, & Drinking in Excess.
Everything in moderation, right? It’s easy to be tempted into another drink, or buying more gifts for that person that may deserve a little extra something. The holiday season can leave long-lasting effects for you (and your bank account) if you’re not keeping track. Consider making something home-made for someone in your life, write them a letter of gratitude, and swap the wine glass for water. Drink more water before and during gatherings which helps you feel more full and prevents the tendency to overindulge.
Keep your boundaries.
Are you notorious for a grand holiday party, or maybe known for baking the best pumpkin pie in the world?
Is everyone asking you to join or help out?
Are you feeling overwhelmed, or like you can’t live up to others’ expectations of you? Let them know!
These moments of overwhelm are another great opportunity to practice saying NO. It’s time for you to set, and keep, your boundaries. Times change, life happens, and other responsibilities may be put first. Tell your friends and family how you’re feeling – don’t assume they know your boundaries, and keep them in the loop.
Stay Connected.
For those who’ve suffered a loss, the holidays are often a stark reminder of that loss and can leave them feeling empty and alone. Add to that the impacts of COVID-19 on our ability to gather in large groups for celebrations or share in annual holiday traditions and some may notice loneliness lingering in the room.
Do your best to stay in touch whether through phone calls, greeting cards, instant messages, text messages, FaceTime or Zoom calls. When you are feeling lonely, reach out and connect with someone. Not feeling talkative? Write them a letter – even if you have no intent to send it. Remind yourself of all that you do have and connections you have made!
Eat well.
Your body needs nourishment – think fruits, vegetables, protein, and the occasional sweet treat. Delicacies often appear on a holiday table spread, but it's best to practice healthy eating habits when you can. Eat regularly and sensibly, and be mindful of what you’re putting in to your body. It’s ok to satisfy a craving and indulge a little bit, but try not to let it get the best of you. Check out our blog on cancer-fighting fruits that may spark ideas for some fun, healthy dishes.
Remember it’s Relationships that Matter.
When you ask people what their favorite holiday memories are, they hardly speak about what Santa brought down the chimney. Instead, they recall how their dad made chocolate chip pancakes every Christmas morning or that they participated in a local Turkey Trot on Thanksgiving. They remember more about that funny story their grandparents told, and playing football in the yard with their cousins. Think about what it means to have your family and friends together, and cherish the moments you have. Life doesn’t stop for anybody, so it’s important to take the time while you have it.
Get help when you need it.
There’s nothing wrong with asking for a helping hand. Maybe you need someone to pick up ingredients at the grocery store, or maybe you dread wrapping presents and would like to do it with someone to make it go faster. Whatever the case may be, you don’t have to do it alone. And, remember, a licensed therapist may help you reframe and understand some of the thoughts bouncing around in your head.
Practice self-care.
If you know that you typically feel stressed, anxious, and scared for what the holidays may bring, be sure to plan out some self-care. Take a drive to look at your neighborhood decorations, bake a batch of your favorite cookies, or enjoy some quality me-time. It’s okay to sit back, relax, and take a deep breath!
For more information on practicing gratitude, check out our blog post The Power of Gratitude
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For additional healthy dessert recipes, check out the American Cancer Institute for Cancer Research webpage on all things dessert.